Are we ready?
I'm ready. I know it might sound crazy, but I have things in place for when I die. Well, maybe not everything, but I have made a good start. It's not to be morbid or to shock. It's not because I'm a funeral celebrant and I've suddenly started thinking about it more. I just decided that I didn't want my family and friends having to deal with too many decisions whenever the time comes. Plus, I want to make sure I have the music I have selected, and not something picked in a panic. I'm also super organised and a teeny weeney bit of a control freak!
I remember when my beautiful Mother-in-law passed away, we were all absolutely heartbroken. But do you know what, even in death she was being kind and helping us. She left a little piece of paper on her bedside cabinet. Written down were the songs she wanted playing at her funeral, along with some other useful details. It was like she knew that we wouldn't be able to think straight and that there was so much to process and do. That little bit of paper was a moment of relief for us. We knew that she wanted Celine Dion, 'Because you loved me' as one of her songs. To know that we were doing what she wanted gave us a huge amount of comfort at such an utterly horrible time.
So, if you're a bit like me and want to know what you can do in advance in preparation of death, then let me point you in the direction of Dying Matters. Dying Matters is a national campaign that started in 2010. Each year hundreds of events take place as part of Dying Matters Awareness Week, which this year runs from May 13-19. The campaign aims to encourage people to become more comfortable talking about death and grief, and to sort out the practical issues about their own death: funeral plans, wills, organ donation, and end of life care. Above all, it wants people to discuss and share these plans so that the right information is available at the right time.
Below are a couple of events that are happening in the North West that I hope to attend.
Be sure to check the website for much more information and to search for events in your area.
LGBT Foundation hosts a film screening of
'A Fantastic Woman' for Dying Matters Week 2019. Tickets are free but must be booked in advance via this link.
Share thoughts, feelings and experiences of death, dying and bereavement over a cup of coffee in a friendly, relaxed environment.
So, I have a list called "SJ funeral plans" and I update it every now and then. My husband knows where to find it, as do some of my friends. I feel happy knowing that it's there and that's important to me.
Whatever you decide or think, just do whatever makes you feel comfortable and content.